2. The things you like about her
Every person enjoys hearing about their positive sides. And if you have fallen in love with your partner, then naturally there are things you like about her. You would want to make your girlfriend feel better by listing the qualities that you find attractive in her. For example, you can talk about the way you felt when you first met her, and reminisce these memories together with her – she will be pleased to hear about your experience.
With all the good things that you say about her, you will make her feel better about herself, and increase her self-esteem. This is what relationships are for – lifting up each other’s spirits. Chances are that she is feeling insecure, and your words can really increase her mood. Your feelings will always transfer to her if they are truly genuine and you mean all the words you say. She will feel like you support her and that your bond is growing closer.
3. Talk about God
If you have still not talked about the religious and spiritual topics with your girlfriend, perhaps you have a chance to connect with her on a deep level by discussing them. These are very serious topics, and certainly not what you usually discuss with the strangers, so you must have a certain level of trust. Sometimes, you might be aware of the basics – for example, if you go to the same church, you would know what she believes in. However, for many people, this topic is something brand new to discuss, and it will give you a good insight into the beliefs of your girlfriend and her convictions.
If she is ready to share her intimate thoughts with you, you should also be prepared to share yours. It can be possible that during the conversation, it will turn out that you have different takes on God and religion. However, you should not get angry and try to convince her to share your beliefs – it will only turn her off. You should try and understand why she feels this way, and this conversation could potentially bring you closer and increase your mutual trust. Pay close attention to the things she says, as they can inspire you for a further initiation of the new conversations later. For instance, she can mention the beliefs of her parents, or the influence of her friends, or the ways her religion helped her. You can discuss these things with her later in more depth.